Physical violence such as domestic violence and dating violence to sexual violence such as rape are easier to identify because they usually leave visible scars. This is different from emotional violence which is sometimes underestimated because the signs and symptoms are "not detailed".

and violence in dating to sexual violence such as rape is more susceptible to Signs You Are Experiencing Emotional Violence

Even so, the impact of emotional violence in romantic relationships can be far more dangerous than physical violence, you know! Moreover, their actions are often not realized by the perpetrators and even the victims.

What constitutes emotional abuse?


Emotional violence is a type of violence that includes verbal attacks and is shown indirectly through manipulative attitudes. For example, belittling or demeaning, berating, threatening, intimidating, excessively possessive behavior, or even completely ignoring you.

Unlike physical and sexual violence, emotional violence is more subtle in nature and sometimes confuses the victim. The abuser at first can do a variety of ways to make you believe in him wholeheartedly. As soon as his manipulation strategy succeeds in destroying your perception and confidence as a victim, then he will take action.

Signs of emotional abuse in correlation


Victims of emotional abuse are generally unaware that they have been targeted because their form is invisible. But make no mistake. Although not visible, the impact of emotional violence can be even more devastating. Starting from tarnishing self-esteem and self-confidence to severe PTSD trauma, stress, and suicide.

That's why it's important to detect as early as possible the signs of emotional abuse that may occur in your relationship.

1. Often blame


"That's just how it could be wrong, anyway! I've already said..."

"Don't be silly! I didn't mean that!"

"You're making it up. It never happened.”

The sentences above have ever come out of verbal partner? If so, chances are your partner is using a disguised manipulation tactic called gaslighting. The perpetrator will continue to insist on twisting the facts so that the victim starts to be wary of the truth of his own model.

If your partner often puts you down and twists the facts so that you look like an irrational person and lose common sense, this is a danger signal that you are experiencing emotional abuse.

2. Possessive


Everyone wants to be noticed by their partner. However, if this is done excessively to the point of allowing your partner to be possessive, then this is not good for your relationship.

"You must report to me every day, yes."

"Where are you? With anyone?"

"Don't go with that guy friend, I don't like it."

So possessive, there are people who ask their partners to offer passwords for all their social media accounts. He said this was meant to prevent infidelity. Once he finds out that you are out with a friend of the opposite sex, your partner will be furious and immediately blame you.

Jealousy is normal, really, but with a note that it is still within reasonable limits. Being too possessive and jealous can actually cause your partner to be fierce towards you. 3. Saying hurtful words, but considered as a joke material
There is nothing more painful than when you receive negative words, especially from your own partner. For example, he often invites you with negative calls such as "stupid" or "funny" in front of your friends.

Especially if when you admonish him to stop, he just immediately denies or dismisses it with "Ah, I'm just kidding. Don't be too sensitive, okay?"

Be careful, this bad attitude is already abusing you emotionally, you know.

4. You have to apologize, even though you weren't wrong


Keep in mind that emotional abusers are generally manipulative. This means that your partner deliberately puts you down, makes you powerless, and places you at fault so that you keep apologizing. For example, by saying something like "You're nagging just because of something as trivial as that? That's right!"

Yes, this is classified as one of the emotional violence that should be wary of. If you do realize that you have made a mistake, of course apologizing is the perfect step. However, if you truly believe that you are not wrong, have evidence, and these unwarranted accusations continue to occur, consider ending the relationship.

5. The partner is always not there for you


At first, your partner will be elegant and romantic by offering flowers or your favorite things. Nothing else, this means to make you believe that he loves you. After you dissolve in the 'game', the partner will begin to be manipulative and act violent verbally.

Again, he will argue that this is a form of his love for you. Unconsciously, you will begin to blame yourself for having accused the no-no.

6. Underestimating


If every time a discussion or fight, he ends the conversation by silencing or refusing to listen to you so that it makes you powerless and appreciated, this is a signal for you to finish the correlation.

Or vice versa, if your partner continues to degrade your dignity and self-belief. For example, you just won a writing essay contest or your boss's office project has just been scored.

Instead of congratulating and encouraging, abusive partners will actually underestimate you. "You just won. There are only a few participants, the scope is small."

This of course will lower your self-esteem. In fact, donations from a partner must be very meaningful to grow your sense of self-dogma.

7. Threatening


These signs of emotional abuse have been detailed. If your partner starts threatening to replace all the important things in your life, from money, to your house, to even your children, this is a danger signal.

The forms of threats can also vary. Whether it's a danger to leave you, expose your behind-the-scenes, and so on.

Impersonally, you will be forced to continue to depend on your partner. Instead of strengthening the relationship, this inner pressure is actually not good for your emotional health.

8. Isolate


A partner who is abusive and often emotionally violent will usually distance you from your family and friends in various ways. Again, this means that you can only rely on it.

As a result, your partner is able to act arbitrarily and emotionally abuse you more freely. The easier it is for you to be separated from those closest to you, the more difficult it will be for you to get out of this unhealthy relationship.